Daddy Wisdom

I go with my dad  to work as our offices are in the same city. It’s been like that since I started working so that’s a good 2 years. Wow. That’s long.

I never really gave much thought to it until today. I realized that I spend significant amount of time with my dad. And it’s not just spending time as in simply being in one place. It’s more of spending time talking. That’s a big difference.

We don’t really talk all the time though. Most of those moments we spend listening to our favourite morning radio program. Yes folks, we have the same favourite morning radio program. Actually our whole family does. There would be times when we’ll talk about the stuff happening in the house, sometimes we talk about gadgets, shoes, and even twitter haha. And there would also be moments when we’ll talk about my life in terms of my friends, my relationships, and my career.

I don’t know if it’s just me but whenever I’m having a serious dilemma or there’s a major decision I need to make, I talk to my dad. And for some magical reason, every time I apply what he says, I feel good, whatever happens after.

My dad is kind of a person with a few words. But once he speaks, it’ll always be full of wisdom. I was talking to him just a while ago before he dropped me off to work. We were talking about my career path. I’ve been pestering my friends for advice on what should I do as I’m facing a very challenging problem in my career right now and it needs immediate action. My friends’ advices really helped me a lot but you’ll really feel that even though all your friends’ words make sense, there’s still something lacking. Our friends can only do so much for us. They can offer us advice but at the end, we’re the ones who still need to decide. It was quite different with my dad this morning. I spoke to him, told him about my concern and then boom. I knew exactly what to do. It’s like he took all the factors and came up with the best solution.

It was like I’m searching for this specific flavour of Ice cream. My friends gave me suggestions and all were so close to the flavour I’m looking for that it can serve as a substitute. But my dad knew the exact flavour down to the brand, ingredients and even where I can get it.

I guess parents have that kind of super hero power with their kids sometimes. They just know what to do with you. And to think that all it took my dad is 5 minutes of his time. I’ve been talking to my friends for weeks before that.

The Right Lock With The Right Key

Look into the mirror and look at yourself. Look at your eyes. What message do they convey? are they blazing with passion? are they contented with happiness? or do they bear sadness for something lacking in your life?

I looked in the mirror and I saw that something is lacking. I’m looking for an answer to a question I’ve been asking myself for almost a year now and up to this day, it still remains unanswered. I’m still finding deep within myself what is it that I should do and it was then that I realized that we are the strongest when we know what path to take and are the most vulnerable when we are confused and lost.

I’m looking for answers, the right mind set to have, the right actions to start doing. I got nothing. This decision I need to make is so significant that I think I really won’t have an answer, because it’s a risk in every perspective I look at it.

I ask myself, do I really got nothing to lose? Is it really the answer to all my insecurities and the ultimate kick I need to level myself to the league I want to be in? I was trying to find an answer and I thought I will, I thought that after a lot of precious time thinking about it, the cosmos will enlighten me with the answer I’m looking for. I guess the cosmos does not work that way.

I’m trying to avoid talking to people because I want to decide for myself. After all, the first and last person who will be affected with what I plan to do is myself. There are people in between and they are included in this major move I’m planning to do but when the world stops spinning and when people start to fly, you’ll tell yourself that it was really for you.

So what do I need to do now? I don’t know. I’ve been talking to the modern sages of our time, trying to make their perspective align in one common plane. I realized a while ago that there is no common plane and it can never be totally aligned.  It may look like they are saying the same thing but when you dig deeper, all their points are inspired by different sources. One is out of growth, one is out of social standing, one is out of competitiveness. It can never be purely aligned.

So where am I left now? I’m not alone. I don’t need to do this alone. But I need to decide alone. It’s not because you don’t have friends to support you nor because you don’t agree with their points. It’s simply because your capability to undersatnd yourself is way better than any sage, expert, or doctor out there. We always hear that we hold the key but have you ever asked yourself where the lock is? Some of us think that the lock is in a successful career or in a multi million business. Some of us think that the lock is in a happy married life or in a big family. Is the lock where our key for really in those things? Can you really open the lock to a successful career or a happy family with your key?

I believe that the lock is inside us, no where else. And once we open that lock with our own key, we are then given the other keys for all the other locks we want to open. We were oriented that we can open the lock in whatever aspect in life we want and that is true. But before opening anything else, open the lock in your heart. You always had the key and it’ll never be taken away from you.

Have I opened the lock in my heart? The answer to this question is the reason why I’m having a hard time deciding what I need to do.