1. Select a Target
2. Approach and Open
3. Demonstrate Value
4. Disarm the Obstacles
5. Isolate the Target
6. Create an Emotional Connection
7. Extract to a Seduction Location
8. Pump Buying Temperature
9. Make a Physical Connection
10. Blast Last-minute Resistance
11. Manage Expectations
Strauss, 2005
Read steps 1-11, what do you think are they for? According to Neil Strauss, the author of the book, ‘The Game’, these are the steps in picking up women.
I was able to read some material about this subject and I found out that there is this community of people specializing in picking up girls. They are called pick up artists (PUA). The PUA community has been in existence for a very long time now. Neil Strauss’ The Game has been published September 2005 and in that book, he was already referring to a long existing community of PUAs and PUGs (Pick Up Gurus)
So do you agree boys and girls? Do you agree that if a guy follows these steps, they can score a date or successfully ‘pick up’ a girl? Do you agree that there’s a science in picking up girls? Or in a more conservative way, in trying to ask a girl out on a date or simply trying to get one person’s attention?
Maybe there is. Maybe if you follow these steps, you’ll be finally able to get to ask that girl out or you’ll finally have the guts to approach someone you really like at work or in school.
I’m no pick up artist, so I really don’t know how to work with these steps. But I do have my own way of approaching people, not just women. And as I was trying to see the relation of my way to Neil Strauss’ way, it’s pretty much the same, at least for the part where you’re just really after a good conversation.
1. Select a Target – I don’t consciously select a person I want to talk to but I’m sure I won’t talk to someone I’m not comfortable with even to a small degree. So I already did select a ‘target’
2. Approach and Open – I walk towards that person I want to talk to and say, ‘Hi, how u doin?’ hehe or if he’s a Filipino or understands the language, I say the ultimate pinoy one liner that can open hundreds of doors to millions of opportunities, ‘musta?’ 
3. Demonstrate Value – If I already know the person, I ask her how is she doing or what has she been up to lately then tell her about how I am doing. If I don’t know the person, I smile and ask her the first question that comes to my mind.
Steps 1-3 are basic. You are doing it every time you talk to someone. Steps 4-11 I think are more intimate and specific in being able to level up the conversation and you have to consciously decide to do it, not just talk.
So if we continue from steps 4-11, are we then considered a PUA? Maybe yes. I read that it’s not as easy as it looks and there are specific ways in learning these steps to master The Game, or in a more personal level, Your Game.
I can’t help but ask though. If there is really a science in picking up girls, why is not everyone hooking up? I mean, if there’s a proven science that the Game works, why is there still a chance that when I do steps 1-11 later at a club or at a bar, I can still get rejected?
I believe that it’s because ‘pick up science’ does not attract everyone.
Not every girl will approve to be ‘picked up’. Some of them are conservative and they won’t really entertain people they are not comfortable with. Some of them are not longing to be picked up. Being single and being in a bar does not automatically mean that you want to pick up or to be picked up. Sometimes you just want to hang out right? Some are in happy relationships and won’t do anything to taint that.
There may be a science to it. There are actually a lot of PUGs out there worldwide and I was surprised to find out that there is even a PUA community here in the Philippines, which is think is still conservative as compared to other countries.
That must mean the science works. It’s not just for everyone I guess.
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